A Challenge to Be Nicer to One Another

Be Nicer to One Another

Be nicer to one another, Shall we?

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today…

and then it felt like I was in some Groundhog Day-esque time loop where I kept waking up on the wrong side of the bed, even though I had gotten out of it hours ago. At first I thought it was just me and I’m going through a serious grump sesh. But then things kept happening that made me fall deeper and deeper into a spiral of anger. Seriously, why do people have to be so mean? Why can’t we be nicer to one another?

First off, on the drive to work, a mini-cooper kept tailgating me. Of course, I don’t condone tailgating because it can lead to some avoidable accidents. I’ve actually witnessed an accident where the cars were going literally three miles an hour (I was right next to them!) and an SUV smushed the trunk of a sedan because he was following that close. And, why? You’re either deliberately provoking the person ahead of you or giving someone else anxiety and stress. Traffic in Los Angeles isn’t bad enough as it is?

To be fair, I can sometimes understand instances of tailgating when it’s accounted for–like if someone is going really slow in the fast lane and they should move aside for the speedy cars. But I was not in the fast lane, nor was I driving particularly slow. Nor was there much traffic in the lanes around me. I mean, it was six in the morning. So why was this person tailgating me?

I do not know. It was rude and it was stressing me out. And eventually they moved to the slower lane and cut me off, which bothers me even more because there was no one in the fast lane! Double argh. And then I ended next to them at the exit light! So all that trouble was for nothing, buddy. Joke’s on you.

Second, at the gym, I was working on my shoulders and between sets, I like to work out a different muscle group. It’s efficient and I don’t like to let my heartrate drop too low between sets. But some girl stepped in and took over the shoulder machine which, hey, is fine. I wasn’t using it. So I grabbed my water bottle which I had left at the machine (and which she saw me do, so she knows I was using it), and moved on to the next machine while I waited for her to be done. She did like five reps, and then she sat there typing away on her phone. I kid you not, I completed six whole sets (of combined triceps and back) and she was still typing!

Well whatevs. I didn’t want to work on my shoulders anyway 😛 so I went downstairs to do abs.

And THEN, after showering, I was walking down the hall and the SAME girl takes a step right in my way. I almost crashed into her. And she was too busy staring at herself in the mirror to notice. To be fair, once she did notice, she muttered a quick “sorry,” which I do appreciate.

Anyway, this turned out into more of a rant than I would have liked. And I’m aware that I can sometimes be not the nicest or friendliest person in the world. I could go out of my way more often than I do. I can smile at strangers and open the door for someone. But most of the time I walk around with a frown on my face. Mostly it’s because the sun is in my eyes, but sometimes it really is because I can’t get out of my dark mood.

That frown is highly contagious, and is one of those thing that get worse and worse if I don’t do something about it. Like a hunger headache, the longer I ignore it, the stronger it grows. And the thing about grumpiness is that it’s infectious. Somehow, someone being a jerk to me will cause me to be a jerk to myself and everyone else.

Which is why I’m going to make an effort from now on to be kinder and more considerate of those around me. And it’d be cool if everyone joined me. This is a challenge to be nicer to one another. To just be more aware of your surroundings and how your actions affect your environment and the people breathing the same air as you.

I’ve created this Be Nicer Challenge Schedule to get us started. Download it, follow it loosely, follow it strictly, there are no rules.

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The idea is to do little things every day that will eventually add up into bigger things. We’ll start small, with just some eye contact and a smile (sounds like I’m picking someone up at a bar 😉 ). And then we’ll move on to bigger things, like volunteering and baking cookies. What do you guys think? I’m open to suggestions as well! And I hope you guys join in this quest to be nicer to one another.